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From the moment you get pregnant (actually before too but not as in your face), we are compared.

  • The age you started having kids
  • The age you’re still having kids
  • If you’re bigger or smaller than the pregnant people they know or have seen
  • When you feel the baby move
    • BTW – that whole “butterflies” or “flutter of life” feeling is total CRAP! It’s more like when you hold in a fart in the beginning.
    • BTW2 – if the placenta is in the front you’ll feel it later. They don’t tell you that and you can’t tell if it is until the big ultrasound.
  • How big or small your baby is at X time
  • If you’re baby came early, on time, late
  • C-section vs normal vs VBAC
  • How big your baby is at birth

Later on it keeps going

  • When you kid walks
  • When your kid talks
  • When your kid is potty trained – I really hate this one. Yes my 3 year old is not potty trained. Guess why. Because he fucking doesn’t want to be yet. He knows how, he’s just not that interested.
  • How much your kid knows – Big issue for homeschooled kids. “Well my neighbors/co-workers/friends kid/grandkid does X already. Why doesn’t yours?”
  • How socialized your kid is – Another homeschool pet peeve. Yes, because I want my kid associating with the bullies or those that aren’t tolerant. How about school safety? Since the recent shootings, homeschool is on the rise. Public school kids are just as messed up as the rest. Don’t get me going on about teachers, I know there are some great ones and they work hard, it’s still divided time. Sure there are exceptions everywhere but please. SHUT UP ABOUT SOCIALIZING MY KID!!
  • The comparisons don’t stop there. But my list will.

The point is please stop comparing us. All of us! I have terrible body confidence issues. Why? Because growing up I always saw my mom upset with how her tummy wasn’t flat enough. She’s beautiful and in great shape. So if you can’t be happy with that body, what chance do I have? I’m usually a bit overweight. I’m terrible at styling my hair. I don’t wear makeup unless I’m going out or to see family. Hell, remember how it’s a win if I get to brush my hair?? I don’t feel pretty or beautiful. I keep comparing myself to everyone else. My sister has amazing style. She’s great with makeup and hair. She’s also a kick ass marathon runner. She’s no size 2 but she is in great shape and can kick just about anyone’s ass. One of my cousin’s is a petit thing and super cute. She makes friends all over and has an easily dressed body type.

We’re great about putting on a happy or pretty face for others. How many actually know the struggle that goes on inside? Likely no one knows what we struggle with inside. We may not be Tom Hanks or Julia Roberts, but we are all actors.

Who cares about the models on the cover of magazines. We compare ourselves to the people around us. It’s not easy, I’m guilty too. But if we were to stop comparing ourselves to others, if we could be happy with the body we have at the moment (because lets face it, the body is always changing. Thanks zebra stripes.); maybe we could all be happier and young girls and boys (YES BOYS TOO), can grow up accepting who they are.

My 3 year old has long hair. My 6 year old has short hair. The 6 year old keeps being conditioned by other people that long hair is for girls. Boys can’t wear nail polish. The 3 year old doesn’t care. He likes his curls. But I’m sick of people putting their close minded views onto my kids. I know men who wear skirts, have earrings or wear necklaces (and not just the religious ones or rapper chains). The’re awesome people. Side bit on that… check out Red Dress PDX. Wearing a red dress is required for entry and everyone who attended had a great time. An no, not all the guys that went are gay or bisexual or feminine. They just wore a red dress.

Final note:

Stop comparing yourself to other people. Stop comparing other people to yourself or others. Accept people and let them be happy! Accept yourself and be happy!

Neglect…

It’s amazing how life changes and moves on. To think that I only wrote once in 2016 and haven’t since. Life has been full of it’s ups and downs since then. We’ve gone through moves (yes plural), and job changes. We’ve had to do major remodel on a house which included removing and replacing an exterior wall. One rusty nail in a foot, and one staple in the hand. Plus removing lots of water. We didn’t go fancy either with any of it. We’re frugal people. I’ll say this, carpet squares are awesome!! If you’re looking for some to carpet your whole house, a guest room, the play room, or make a rug even… check out: Biscuit’s Bargains. No affiliate link, nothing monetized. I just think they’re a great place. My boys flooded the living room from the kitchen. (Aimed the sprayer from the kitchen faucet) TWICE! And I just picked up the carpet tiles and hung them on the clothesline to dry. Once I mopped up the concrete subfloor, I replaced the tiles and all was good as new.

More to the point of the post. 🙂 Neglect… It’s easy to let things go by the wayside and forget about them. Since we moved to our most recent place, I’ve very easily kept up on laundry. Dishes are fairly good. General household still needs work. I go through spurts of being able to take care of it and then there are the times I need hubby to bail me out of the mess.

I went to Hawaii with my sister, mom, grandma, and grandpa for a week. First off, it’s great to take a vacation where you only need to really cover your airfare and food. Grandparents already covered the condo so we were able to ride along for free. For the flight, it’s a really awful amount of time in the air for someone who hates flying and especially when flying is painful. Yes we left before the big volcano activity but that’s not the point. We went on an excursion put on by Hawaii Forest and Trail and on the bus ride up to the hike starting point, they asked everyone to tell a bit about themselves including their passion. I realized that currently I don’t have one. Sure I love my family (hubby, kids, and dog). But for a personal passion… nothing. I used to crochet. I used to do calligraphy. I used to paint. I used to read books. I used to cook exciting new dishes. Get the point?

What do I do now? In the moment I spouted off Calligraphy even though I haven’t done it in ages.

So I started this post 7 days ago. See where the problems lie? I couldn’t get back to it for a week. Neglect. Most days I work on keeping up with the house, minding the kids, homeschooling, and working. I call it a big win if I manage to brush my hair that day. If it weren’t for the fact that hubby likes my hair long, I’d cut it all off to avoid the massive tangles.

I love it when people say “you just need to take some time for yourself”. Or “you need to make the time”. I can’t make time people!! We all get 24 hours in a day. No more, no less. Same goes for taking the time to teach my kids whatever that person deems important to them.

Next post will have to be about comparisons because I was just about to go into a whole thing about that which would make this waaaay to long. Maybe I’ll get lucky and it will come soon. I may forget. It may be another 2 years. Life isn’t an easy laid out plan where everything gets done.

Bottom line is that everyone is neglected. We neglect ourselves, we neglect our family, we neglect our responsibilities. There just isn’t enough time or energy to give everyone and everything the attention and consideration deserved desired.

Reading Time

Lately, Little Man has been bringing me books to read to him by the armload. Just now we read:

  • Baby Touch and Feel Farm
  • Usborne Very Virst Nursery Rhymes
  • Big Bear Little Bear
  • Winnie the Pooh – Pooh’s Spring-Cleaning Mystery
  • Winnie the Pooh – Eeyore Looses His Tail … Again
  • My World
  • Goodnight Gorilla

And now he’s headed my way with another armload. Do you like reading with your kids? What are their favorite books?

Every night before bed, I read Little Man a story from one of our favorite books. We read from Uncle Arthur’s Bedtime Stories, 3 Minute Bedtime Stories, and a few others too but those are the two we’re working through right now. I picked up some great books at our local library’s book sale  in Virginia before we moved. I’ve got the complete Grimm’s Fairy-tales which we won’t be reading for awhile but I still loved finding it.

Anniversary with Wordpress

Three days ago, I had my one year anniversary with WordPress. It’s hard to believe that it’s been that long. So much has happened since that first day when I decided to blog because my husband was. I remember posting about Christmas and now we’ve only had our tree up for a week this year. We finally have some presents under the tree but really no other decorations. Anyway, let me sum up a little of what’s been going on…

Christmas 2012

Last year’s Christmas Tree

Last December we were celebrating our son’s first Christmas! It was such an exciting time and I had lots of big plans. Many fell by the wayside. Come January, little man got to see snow for the first time. My husband even brought a snowball into the house for him to enjoy.

First Snow

Little man’s first snow

Little man got his first tooth! We started the 1,000 books before kindergarten program at our local library in Virginia.

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In February my husband gave me the best Valentines ever! March was a very hard month for me. It started off with some wonderful firsts. I got to see little man sign “eat” and my husband got to see him crawl. But later on in the month, my grandma passed away and I was sad for such a long time. In April little man turned 1! His first birthday was awesome and I was so excited that my parents flew cross country to see us for the monumental event.

Grandpa and Grandma with Little Man

Grandpa and Grandma with Little Man

It was quite a monumental month. Lots of birthdays (Little Man, two of his buddies, his uncle, and his great aunt). Also, my Dad got to see the Mariner’s Museum in Virginia which he’d been looking forward to for years. May gave me my second Mother’s Day! My husband gave me a nice new sewing machine. In June, we celebrated our 7th wedding Anniversary. Also, we had my husband’s second Fathers Day and, my little brother graduated from High School. July was overall quiet. But my husband did manage to put a hitch on our Subaru. He loved being able to work on a car again even if it did take many hours split over two days. Come August, I had my birthday. I finally got flowers and I loved it!!! My husband was super sweet and got me red roses for my birthday and my brother got me the coolest ice cube tray ever! It’s a Dr. Who ice cube tray. I love Dr. Who. And I love flowers. Great Birthday!! Also in August, my husband started looking for a new job.

In September, my husband got a job offer! We were so proud of him (and still are)! We found out that we would be moving from Virginia to California. Also, my brother officially became a Sailor in the US Navy. We are very proud of him too! In October we moved from Virginia to California. Just before the move, little man and I finished the 1,000 books before kindergarten program. We will miss our little library so much!! And all our friends back in Virginia too! We drove from Virginia to California with two adults, one baby, and two dogs in a car towing a trailer with a full rack on top of the car too. We stayed at KOA campgrounds the whole way through. Our first night we had our first hack at tent camping and then after that we stayed in cabins since the weather was so cold. It took 9 days and we were so exhausted by the end of it. We found a cute little townhome to rent and are very happy where we live. At the end of the month my husband had his first day of work.

In November I got a brand new crock pot! And started using it a lot!! We finally got our things from the movers and lived in boxes for most of the month. I hope all the boxes in the house will be gone by the end of this year. I won’t hold my breath on the boxes in the garage though. We did enjoy our first Thanksgiving here and a post I wrote awhile ago (and scheduled for the day after Thanksgiving) finally posted and it reminded me of my blog which I’d been neglecting.

December has come and as I said before, we don’t have much decorated. We have the tree up and the presents below. I’ve put the two Christmas cards we’ve received on the wall. Little man and I decorated the tree. It come pre-lit since it’s fake but he put the ornaments on the bottom and I put the fragile ones on the top half. I’ve decided to make our own Christmas stockings this year since I want to start anew with our own little family. I was never a fan of my husband having a stocking that was huge compared to mine. It was too hard to fill up. We’re a week away from Christmas and I hope that you make some memories like we will. It’s amazing when you end up downsizing the size of your home and your possessions, just how happy you realize you are with what you have. I didn’t have much on my Christmas list this year (but Dr. Who is always on the list) and we don’t have a lot of space for things. Everything we own has to be functional in some way really.

Anyway, now that I’ve caught you up on the last year, I hope to start post up some great recipes again. And always, you can check our my Recipes Page or just type anything into the search bar at the top right if you’re looking for a certain recipe or ingredient. And one more thing, to spice things up a bit, I’ll even take requests. If there is a recipe you’re looking to try or trying to find, let me know. I’ll create a great recipe and test it out on my own family, then post it for all to enjoy!

Have a Very Merry Christmas!!

A Proud Moment in Motherhood!

We have been delighting in such joy at our house lately. I’m proud to announce that little man can officially walk!! I’m such a proud mama and my husband is such a proud daddy. A few weeks back little man took his first four steps toward his dad. It was so magical that we were all together to see it happen. Since then, he really didn’t walk. About a week ago my husband calls to me “he’s walking” and when I popped my head around the corner he had stopped and sat down. I didn’t get to see anything! Then a few days ago little man was at it again. My husband decided to try and “bribe” little man into walking. Recently my sweetheart got a new wallet and wanted to pass on his old one to little man. So, he stood up little man and dangled the old wallet in front of our little guy. Soon, little man took a few steps in order to reach the wallet. Dad moved it further away, little man took a few more steps. And now little man is walking every day and all over the house. We are so proud of him and he is so proud of himself.

Here is a short video of little man walking that I took the other day.